Before I Speak

SheSpeaks, One Longfellow Square, Portland, Maine – Lael Couper Jepson shechanges.com
It's my turn 
To take the mic
Giving voice to the bravery
Dwelling deep where my story lives

I don't like to feel 
What's difficult
This standing here on stage before you 
Is the beginning of being

Willing to feel 
The fear of fear,
The anger of anger,
The doubt 


Taking a stand for myself
I grow
Beyond 
To touch the joy of joy
The truth of truth
And loving my voice

It is my turn
To be.

The same woman

My daughter & me
When I am 91
Waking up in my bed on wide white sheets
Vanishing into the open question 
At the end of my life
I am still a young woman

No baby suckles my breasts 
Anymore
No tiny hand in mine 
Brings me to the window
To hear the birds

Yet I am the same woman 
Who wrote this poem
Long ago
From the foundering depths of 
New motherhood

I am also the baby girl
At the beginning of my life
Held by my mother 
To her breast 
Giving me her milk

Yearning 
For the work of her career
From the depths of motherhood to be 
Doing important things 
Her real life

This I absorbed this into my cells 
Keeping me 
For a long time 
From the things I loved
Especially myself

As I nursed my baby this morning
On the wide white sheets
I prayed 
For love to guide me

Thanking God for the grace 
To leave aside my work 
For a while
For the important things
My real life

Even as she sings the alphabet 
In the next room
And stammers along the floor 
To find me

My baby is the grown woman
Who will bring to me at 91
Her motherhood, her children 
Her children's children
And I will remember myself

Scandal

It is an act of self contempt
That I pull white hairs from my head

Leaning into the mirror
Scanning for the inaccuracies
In what I wish to be
My youthful appearance

This is not just a denial of the truth of my age
But a metaphor for my existence

These unruly sprouts
Arrived at this late hour to
Express the essential inobedience
That has defined me all my life

Is it any wonder
The child who learned to pluck from me
What was weird
When weirdness was wrongness

Has come to be
The Grim Reaper?
Culling
One by one
The zany kinks
In brilliant white
Who boldly stand apart from my crown
Immodest in their announcement   

There is a slaughter going on
Though fruitless against
The merry revenge of
The Hydra of age, as
Three more sprout
For each brilliant spring that is lovelessly snatched

When will I grow up
To love
The ageless rebellion in me
That wills itself
To live
Against all odds?

God Washes Away the Devil

From www.desiringgod.org

I used to I used to 
I used to know
Who I am
Chaos
(Turn)

Doesn't the devil do his work?
Under disguise
Pain is dependence

(Turn)
Listen 
Go In
In in in, friend
Down down down
Light call it 

Relax soft
In call in the light 
Down down down
Let it fill tendency
Pain is the opening
Tenderness
Of God

You are right 
This is who you are
Remember
God washes away the devil

Arizona

How different we are 
If different is the word 
For your dirty feet 
Nestled sweetly together 
        Two tired pigeons
The sun bakes the heat into the pavement like a griddle
Searing any skin it touches
Not fit for a human 
To walk here

Under this overpass
By the concrete park 
You are grey dust 
Grey shirt grey mess hair
In a haze of busy avenue shadows 

If it's the great eternal sleep you seek
No one knows when it will come

My baby and I
Unnoticed in our walk's chirping and song 
Toward the bright books of the library
         Where the AC’s on
         Where babies babble and play
         With puppets and toys

You’re asleep 
I hope not dead 

Has no one has looked you in the eye 
To tell you the green trees 
Against the blazing sky?
Have you seen the purple sunset?

Perhaps there is a place in the city 
To walk
Where you can hug the shadows 
As the sun dips

All day
The desert cooks the colors
Lifting from the traffic and cactus 
Bruised light into the sky

A watercolor of grey-purple grey-pink
You wouldn't think such moist life would survive this heat

You just have to look up 
To know you're alive
Did you know
That’s what we’re famous for?

	


	







	

		
Compassion doesn’t make appointments
	


	
	

		






Why did I cry during the teleconference?
I opened my mouth and 
Knew
The tears would come

As you spoke about the death of your father
I see myself on the screen in
What listening looks like:
Shiny desperation mixed with refusal

I have a primordial itch
The deep "next"
Reaching out and away from myself 
 To anything else

This is not suffering

"It's good, basically good. That's my life: the simple things" 
The waves of pain wash you
As you tread gracefully
Accepting the world as it is

On my turn to talk
Having been touched
I can feel myself again
Your pain is all pain

My heart, speaking for me, is
Red-faced and her voice wobbly with emotion
I am a contortion of grace 
That will not be silenced

Remembering to return to 
The bed of fear 
(Free-falling as it does)
I do not hold on

This is surrender

	


	





	

		
Under the Black Moon
	


	
	

		






I.
Mercury / black moon
Breathe

Little cat gripping the walls of the tub
Start over and trust that I can

II.
I wasn't old enough to even buy 
        cigarettes
Sought out trouble
The black sickness

Crouched over the hypnotic whirr of the ceramic wheel
My hands lost 
        in the curative water of clay slip
The clay demands perfect balance
        or else warps off center

I allow perfection to emerge 
       from me
Until the darkness leaves once and for all






	


	





	

		
Welcome I and II
	


	
	

		

“Rose Cottage” by Helen Allingham





I.

Three crows greet me this morning 
Hopping in place on the fence 
Strange friends 
Crowd around

They stay close 
Eyes stop as I pass 
And meet the winking black gaze 
Of the closest 

A fourth alights 
On a far wall: the witness 
Then a fifth
Late to the murder 

What had they been waiting for? 

Is it me? 





II.
If I must quit something 
Quit what separates 
Feeds the gnawing doubt 
Casts a darkness in the center 

Quitting drinking 
Is the path of renunciation 
Admitting I have lived but half my life 
Only part of each moment 

I lose the old familiar questions 
To the admission of my inheritance 
The cycle of hiding 
Ends with me

Gaining my wholeness 
That needs no assurance 
The seeker finds she is
Already home